Saturday, February 28, 2015
"It's all about trying to make the world and the universe a better place. I'm proud to be connected with it. I think we need that in our lives. We need ethical, heroic people trying to do the right thing to help others and to improve life on this planet and in the universe."
"Logic is the beginning of wisdom, not the end."
"I'm touched by the idea that when we do things that are helpful and useful, collecting these shards of spirituality, that we may be bringing about healing."
"Whatever I have given, I have gained."
"The more we share, the more we have."
Thursday, February 26, 2015
“Sorry, you're not a fit", "you're just not my type", or "we have a better qualified candidate" are all common statements that many people hear when they're being rejected. It can be a heart-wrenching experience to be on the receiving end of these conversations by either a prospective employer, potential client, or a love interest, but how we react in these situations can either create the opportunities or the obstacles to our success. Therefore, it's essential that we create a strategy to effectively manage our response to rejection by following these 5 ways to successfully transition through the challenges and begin “Opening the Door to Our Success".
1. Expect – If we want to effectively deal with rejection in life we need to understand that it will be a reoccurring theme in every aspect of our lives. Therefore, we can't live our lives fearful of taking the possible risks that may create opportunities, but instead move confidently forward with making life decisions. Understanding that life is not made up of just absolutes, but is full of shades of grey that are the drivers for how events unfold. When we don't allow ourselves to assume that something is supposed to happen we make it easier to prepare for a less than positive outcome. By expecting to experience rejection as part of life, and proactively preparing our minds for the experience we can more easily embrace the ramifications that occur from the situation.
2. Embrace - After we accept rejection we can fully embrace the feelings that it might create. By changing our perspective of the situation we allow ourselves to take a retrospective view of what occurred, and look to improve any attitudes and behaviors that may have contributed to the rejection. Reminding ourselves that even the most talented successful people in life get rejected should make it easier to handle the rejection experience. After moving through the emotions, and re-framing our thinking then we need to “dust off” and keep moving forward in life. We can only to take advantage of the opportunities that may arise when we have the emotional intelligence to prepare for chances at success.
3. Evolve - Just like many other situations in life, rejection provides the prospect for producing personal change and growth. If we use the occasion to be introspective and analyze our performance, personality, or any other aspect that may have contributed to the rejection we produce the likelihood that we’ll deal with rejection in life as a winner. Therefore, the situations are learning tools and not a means to choose to be victims, but reconfirm to ourselves that we possess the abilities and talents to be successful. When we completely evolve we become energized and excited to accept the new opportunities that exist in life.
4. Energized - It takes energy to make things happen, and to create the persona of a confident successful individual. When we exhibit a self-assured image people feel more comfortable providing new opportunities for success. During this phase of the rejection cycle we should be developing new plans and willingness to go back to "knocking on doors” that will lead to our success. Only when we have transitioned to a point where we’re energized by our new confidence can we realize or dreams.
5. Earn - The whole process of rejection is a process of human development that culminates in the ability to go out and earn new chances to succeed. As you transform your thinking by expecting the reality of rejection, embracing the feeling created, evolve with a new positive perspective, and develop an energized confidence that will propel you to gain the advantage that leads to earning the right once again to "Open the door to the Success" that is waiting for you in life.
Work, the one activity that consumes more time in our lives than anything else. Now with the ever-changing retirement requirements it's not uncommon for people to spend half their lives "Standing Around the Water cooler". So how can you keep a smile on your face while holding your water cup? The need to have a positive outlook at work and in life is vital to maintaining both mental and physical health.
Attitudes - Therefore, the first priority in achieving that smile is to be connected with how you look at life. What value do you place on work in your life? Is it a means to purely support your family or does it provide meaning and the vehicle to help you impact the world? Your personal value system is what will determine if you choose to take the next promotion that could result in working during your child's play or make the choice to stay in a position with less responsibility that requires less demands and time in your life. Defining your attitude is the first crucial step to finding satisfaction at work.
Accolades - The next component of maintaining a sense of satisfaction in the workplace is to be rewarded for your efforts. This can occur as a token of appreciation with a thoughtful note from your boss or possible the financial reward of a quarterly bonus. Both examples are delivered with intent show appreciation for your efforts on the company's behalf. If these type of accolades are missing in your workplace it can be challenging to feel appreciated and satisfied. The solution to ensuring this occurs is to have a strong work ethic every day you walk through the door to work, and stay positive about what is occurring in the company. If you behave in this manner you should be noticed for your good work, and receive the benefit of having a job that keeps you smiling at the water cooler.
Associations - Part of being successful and satisfied in the "Office" means you're able to have good interpersonal communication with your co-workers. A large part of how this occurs depends on your willingness to engage others, and show a genuine interest in their well-being. When you behave as a collaborative colleague is reduces the risk of disputes, but doesn't eradicate them from the office. If you want to enjoy your days at work "smiling at the water cooler", look for opportunities to be a thoughtful team player who can say a simple and courteous hi and thank you when appropriate.
Approach - Finally, that last ingredient to being satisfied at work is the mindset you consistently choose to maintain. Just as in life, there will be numerous changes that need to occur in the workplace. How you choose to handle these issues can impact your feeling of satisfaction. If you decide to get on board with leadership choices then you'll create a positive environment for all to enjoy. Then not only will you "be smiling at the water cooler, but so will your co-workers.
Have you ever been on a sailboat or motorboat? Now think of the cruise you were on, and what would have happened if these boats didn't have rudders? It wouldn't have been too fun floating aimlessly out in the middle of nowhere with the challenge of getting back on course. Each of us are unique individuals with special talents and likes. Do you have a plan to merge those two things, so you can enjoy the life making a difference? If not, I encourage you to sit down and write a list - (create your mission) - It's time to attach that rudder to your life.
Things will happen in life that none of us expect, but how we respond to these events can
determine what we achieve. No excuses - the Marine Corps taught me a great saying -
"Improvise, Adapt, and Overcome". Be a problem solver.
A large part of achieving things in life is having the persistence and perseverance
to continue on when no one is at your side. The only way you can do this is to
wholeheartedly believe in yourself and what you have to offer. If you don't, then no one else
will. Start your day in the morning by exclaiming “I can, I can, and I can".
Creating the mindset of a winner is crucial to making it through life's hurdles. How do
you look at the world? When I was a manager I always encouraged staff to think of the
possibilities, and bring me new ideas that would improve our situation. I knew any dud
could point out the negative in a situation, but I wanted to inspire them to be innovative
and imagine achieving the prize. It sure made for a better work environment where people
felt comfortable to share ideas and possibilities. Make sure to take time for yourself each
day to stay focused - at least 30 minutes at a minimum.
How many games are won without a plan?
Zilch. Setting goals is the key to being a champion in your life. There needs to be a
defined concerted effort to making your mission a reality. Is it a new degree, a promotion,
a personal relationship, or your health? Whatever it is you need to do the following to
be certain you hit the mark:
- Set incremental goals - the first goal might be something that can be easily achieved, but then begin to stretch yourself making more challenging goals that keep your eyes on the prize of achieving your mission/purpose.
- Keep track of your successes
- "Positive Affirmations", are short directed positive action statements concerning something you want to achieve or change like a certain mindset or behavior. These statements are used for sub-conscious messaging. The way the affirmation is constructed is extremely important for changing thought patterns. The more motivated you are to alter your life the greater possibility you’ll have to make your changes.
- How do affirmations work? When you say your positive affirmation, the subconscious archives the information for evaluation. There are only two choices the subconscious can consider, acceptance or denial. The subconscious won’t evaluate the response, but merely go with whatever the most prominent inner voice might be concerning the issue at hand. Therefore, when you continue to say positive affirmations you provide the playback the subconscious will use when responding. As you use the affirmation regularly you should feel a sense of well being related to what you’ve been saying. When this occurs the affirmation is working.
- How to use them? Here is a list of tips to follow that will encourage your success:
*Stand in front of the mirror using a confident voice and stance. Say your
affirmations 5x for each one you’ve created both in the morning, and before you
go to bed at night.
- How quickly can you see results? When you choose to say affirmations that have meaning and a purpose you can see results quickly. If you’re thinking becomes negative when saying the affirmation your subconscious may be resisting the message. When this occurs do the following:
- Releasing statements – There may be emotions of feelings holding you back. Say something like, “I forgive, I don’t need to feel, or any statement that releases any sense of guilt or shame that might be stalling the process.
- Becoming statements – “I am becoming”. Sometimes people struggle with I am, so I am becoming can be more believable and unlock the subconscious ability to accept the affirmation.
- Acknowledgment statements – This is giving yourself a pat on the back. “I met my goals successfully, and I feel great”.
occur within the first 30 days. Here is a list for your first month. You can do it!!!
- I have unlimited creativity, drive and motivation.
- I am motivated to continue perusing my goals.
- New opportunities are showing up daily and I am inspired to take action.
- I feel alive, energized and motivated to take on any task in front of me.
- Motivation comes easily to me.
- Staying motivated comes easily to me.
- Because of my profound energy, I achieve and exceed at all that I do.
- I am so motivated that others get inspired just by being around me.
- I attract those that help me reach my goals.
- I am motivated and live my life to the fullest.
- My life is full of purpose and motivation.
- I have unlimited energy and motivation.
- I am happy and motivated when I achieve my goals.
- l am easily motivated.
- l easily stay motivated toward my dreams.
- I stay motivated and energized when working toward my goals.
- I wake up energized and ready to face the day.
- I am confident in what I do and that keep me motivated to continue moving forward
- I love myself and I am perfectly healthy.
- Every cell in my body is health conscious. I am a health freak.
- I am full of energy and vitality and my mind is calm and peaceful.
- I avoid junk food. I eat healthy, nutritious food that benefits my body and large quantity of water that cleanses my body.
- I think only positive thoughts and am always happy and joyous, no matter what the external conditions are.
- I always feel good. As a result, my body feels good and I radiate good feelings.
- Every day is a new day full of hope, happiness and health.
- Good health is my birth right. I bless my body daily and take good care of it.
- I am always happy, hale and hearty. Happy in spirit, hale in body and hearty in disposition.
- I am of a strong heart and steel body. I am vigorous, energetic and full of vitality.
Tuesday, February 24, 2015
- One of the agencies is the IOM (Institute of Medicine) who defines patient-centered care as: "Providing care that is respectful of and responsive to individual patient preferences, needs, and values, and ensuring that patient values guide all clinical decisions."
- Next, the American Association of Colleges of Nursing defines it as, “To recognize the patient or designee as the source of control and full partner in providing compassionate and coordinated care based on respect for patient’s preferences, values and needs”.
- Finally, the Beryl Institute defines the patient experience as “the sum of all interactions, shaped by an organization’s culture, that influence patient perceptions across the continuum of care”.
Thursday, February 19, 2015
- Becomes a better team player through improved communication.
- Increases empathy and understanding for others through active listening.
- Asserts and proactively says no negative to being impacted by negativity.
- Delivers confident decisions in tune with his or her intuition.
- They remain calm and assess the quality of their emotions.
- They take time to understand the causal effect behind the way they’re feeling.
- They evaluate the validity of their feelings with a rational barometer.
- They use a retrospective viewpoint to ensure consistency in their response.
- They identify the triggers that were the precursors for their stress.
- They capture the moment by using a journal to track frequency of feelings.
- Finally, they assert control rather than becoming a victim to their emotions.
- Believe that you have something to offer the world - A self-reliant person is able to see the value they hold because they have self-esteem. Therefore, they are able to deflect negative things said or done to them because those aren't the images they see in the mirror.
- Are Confident in your ability to generate things that hold meaning and value - A self reliant person will be that inventor or leader that might go against the grain because in addition to their self esteem they are self confident about their talents and abilities. They believe they have what it takes to get the job done.
- Aren't swayed by negativity - Self reliant people can see the positive in situations because they look at life as a bunch of untapped possibilities. They take full responsibility for their lives and don't play the victim role.
- Are Willing to forge the trail alone - With the world view that possibilities exist, it's not much of a leap for the self reliant person to pursue their dreams even if they have to deal with naysayers. Their goal is to determine their happiness, and create the life they desire.
- Enjoy collaboration and promote team success - The self reliant person is a good team player because their goal in collaboration is the same for others as for themselves. They want people to make the most of their lives, and achieve their hopes and dreams. Therefore, they willingly offer their support to ensure the success of the team.
- Seek counsel if needed because you understand you don't know everything - Self reliant people are able to search out counsel when needed to support their success. There is a huge difference between healthy self confidence and arrogance, and the self reliant person understands the wisdom at being able to see an issue from a variety of angles creates the best outcome possible.
- Continue to look for opportunities to learn and improve - Learning and improving is a process that never ends. Self reliant people pursue opportunities to increase their knowledge and skills because they understand it's the only way to stay ahead of the curve, remain relevant, and support their independence.
- Make a list of your abilities, knowledge, and skills. Seeing it on paper will help you realize what you have to offer.
- Create a list of ideas you have that you would like to pursue at your job or in your life. Take the idea a step further by plotting out a start to finish algorithm.
- How do you look at life? Start each day by choosing one positive quote that you can focus on throughout the day. Use positive talk to reinforce your self esteem and confidence. Be grateful.
- Don't allow others to crush your dreams. Write down five goals that you want to accomplish. Use the smart method - specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and time specific. Put this list where you can see it daily. Stay focused, and reduce your interactions with any naysayers if you're unable to sway their negativity.
- Look for opportunities to be a giver. Add to the collaborative process. Share your special knowledge or talent to improve the process, and create a win-win for all involved.
- Do you have a mentor or someone that you can turn to for advice? Make your own decisions, but cultivate a relationship with someone who will give you honest feedback concerning your thought process on ideas/projects you're pursuing.
- When was the last time you took a class, read a book, or watched a webinar focused on improving your personal and professional skills? Choose 1 thing you will do each month to increase your knowledge or skills.
- Once I'm done writing my list I see that the things that hold value for me are to care about other people, do something that makes me feel like I make a difference, use my knowledge of medicine and health to create solutions to problems, be able to have the flexibility to spend time with my family, and make an income that provides for our needs and enjoyment.
Creating your "Mindset for Success" is similar to building a strong foundation on which a house is built. It will be the mechanism to support additions to the structure, weather storms adequately, and keep you secure for years to come. If you want to be successful you have to build the same strong and sturdy resolve to follow your dreams that will result in your success.
During the initial construction you laid out the boards of emotional intelligence. That was so you could create a framework that wouldn't buckle under the pressures of emotional challenges. Then you took out the blueprints and tried to see the lines, but the page had been smeared. You had a deadline for this project, and knew you had to rely on your own skills. You took out your pen and sketched out the missing components, so the job could be completed on time.
The next day you unveiled a sign that was going to stand in front of this new home. It wasn't going to be like all the other homes on the block. It had been built with many rooms, a large kitchen with plenty of room for a family, and an extra large laundry room that could fit three sets of washing machines. As you removed the packaging from the sign it said “A New Day Home - A place for transitioning mothers of domestic violence". This house had a purpose, to care for these women in transition by providing a safe and warm home where they could start to get back on their feet.
On this journey, you experienced challenges with not enough supplies and missing information, but you knew there were some women struggling to get to a safe place with their children. Therefore, you worked long hours; you used your ingenuity, and remained dedicated to getting this home built on time. You were tenacious in building this amazing structure. On the day the front door opened, you were there to see the smiles on those ladies faces who would be the residents and heard the pitter-patter of their kids little feet running through the halls. Your hard work and dedication resulted in this successful outcome.
Being a success takes work, but more importantly it calls for an inner strength that requires you to weather the storms of life, be resourceful with limited support, keep your eyes on the prize, and have the "intestinal fortitude" to keep going, so you achieve the impact and success that makes a difference.