“Sorry, you're not a fit", "you're just not my type", or "we have a better qualified candidate" are all common statements that many people hear when they're being rejected. It can be a heart-wrenching experience to be on the receiving end of these conversations by either a prospective employer, potential client, or a love interest, but how we react in these situations can either create the opportunities or the obstacles to our success. Therefore, it's essential that we create a strategy to effectively manage our response to rejection by following these 5 ways to successfully transition through the challenges and begin “Opening the Door to Our Success".
1. Expect – If we want to effectively deal with rejection in life we need to understand that it will be a reoccurring theme in every aspect of our lives. Therefore, we can't live our lives fearful of taking the possible risks that may create opportunities, but instead move confidently forward with making life decisions. Understanding that life is not made up of just absolutes, but is full of shades of grey that are the drivers for how events unfold. When we don't allow ourselves to assume that something is supposed to happen we make it easier to prepare for a less than positive outcome. By expecting to experience rejection as part of life, and proactively preparing our minds for the experience we can more easily embrace the ramifications that occur from the situation.
2. Embrace - After we accept rejection we can fully embrace the feelings that it might create. By changing our perspective of the situation we allow ourselves to take a retrospective view of what occurred, and look to improve any attitudes and behaviors that may have contributed to the rejection. Reminding ourselves that even the most talented successful people in life get rejected should make it easier to handle the rejection experience. After moving through the emotions, and re-framing our thinking then we need to “dust off” and keep moving forward in life. We can only to take advantage of the opportunities that may arise when we have the emotional intelligence to prepare for chances at success.
3. Evolve - Just like many other situations in life, rejection provides the prospect for producing personal change and growth. If we use the occasion to be introspective and analyze our performance, personality, or any other aspect that may have contributed to the rejection we produce the likelihood that we’ll deal with rejection in life as a winner. Therefore, the situations are learning tools and not a means to choose to be victims, but reconfirm to ourselves that we possess the abilities and talents to be successful. When we completely evolve we become energized and excited to accept the new opportunities that exist in life.
4. Energized - It takes energy to make things happen, and to create the persona of a confident successful individual. When we exhibit a self-assured image people feel more comfortable providing new opportunities for success. During this phase of the rejection cycle we should be developing new plans and willingness to go back to "knocking on doors” that will lead to our success. Only when we have transitioned to a point where we’re energized by our new confidence can we realize or dreams.
5. Earn - The whole process of rejection is a process of human development that culminates in the ability to go out and earn new chances to succeed. As you transform your thinking by expecting the reality of rejection, embracing the feeling created, evolve with a new positive perspective, and develop an energized confidence that will propel you to gain the advantage that leads to earning the right once again to "Open the door to the Success" that is waiting for you in life.